We all know that stress is bad for our health, but do you have any idea of how damaging emotional & relationship stress is to your brain? Can you imagine what years upon years of intensifying emotional stress does to the mechanics and chemistry of your brain? 

In a court of law its easier to prove physical abuse thats blatant, but may emotional and social abuse eat away at your brain in a more insidious manner over time and thus constitute a more severe form of abuse? This is in fact what I’m seeing in my private practice, doing full Brain Imaging. 

In this article I share the story and results of Brenda, a client of mine, to raise awareness of the damaging effects of emotional stress in relationships, marriage, and in the workplace, and empower women both in personal and professional settings to say “NO!” to abuse, and take control of their brain. If you are a women reading this, the results are indisputable, and I highly suggest you implement the recommended Neuroplasticity Dopamine Boosting strategies outlined in this article below, for improving hormone, energy, vitality and fertility levels, brain health and function, cognition and creativity and protecting against Alzheimer’s and Neuro-degeneration. Protect it or lose it!

I have worked with Brenda for over a year, and this last QEEG Brain Mapping of her brain shows just how serious emotional stress is and that it’s equally if not more severe than physical stress and abuse.

This article will dive deep and give you the fundamental teachings of stress affects your brain mechanically and neurochemically, and thus your cognitive and mental abilities and physical ability. Before I give you all these details, which teachers, parents, lawyers should know, here are just a sneak preview of the ways Emotional Stress from relationships damages your brain: 


  1. Literally “SHUTS OFF” certain aspects of your brains functioning, increasing the latent inhibition, as protection mechanism, to the point where your brain literally SHUTS OFF memory, hearing, vision, and cuts you off from your nervous system. Brenda has had to wear a hearing aid, and practically lost her hearing and memory from this relationshipLOOK AT THE EXTREME BLUE IN THE AUDITORY CORTEX across Delta, Theta, Alpha – these are the slower way frequencies that the auditory cortex & limbic system are designed to resonate at.
  2. Stress rapidly DEPLETES VITAL NEUROTRANSMITTERS like Dopamine, Acetyl-Choline & Catecholamines which fuel focus, memory & higher cognition.  Also, DESTROYS MYELIN and “WHITE MATTER” leading to significant signalling issues. SEE BLUE LINES – HYPO-COHERENCE – means Brenda’s brain is not, “firing and wiring” together and is disconnected.
  3. Stress causes a TSUNAMI of HYPER-ACTIVATION of the Auditory Cortex and Limbic System, associated with mass cortisol and inflammatory cytokine release, which directly damages the Hippocampus, the major memory hub of your brain, and DECREASES NEUROGENESIS significantly (HUGE!!!). This Hyper-Inflammatory Response is precisely what we see on Brenda’s Brain Map. This also corresponds to external sense which have shut off, but her Mind and Auditory Internal Dialogue literally “SCREAMING AT HER!”, similar to what most people who are depressed experience. 
  4. Emotional Stress DESTORYS THYROID FUNCTION, HORMONE LEVELS & LEADS TO WEIGHT GAIN, BRAIN FOG & LETHARGY. Brenda’s thyroid and fat-burning ability have all been compromised. Inflammatory cytokines, produced by the liver directly shut off your thyroid and convert active T3 to inactive Reverse T3. The thyroid is the gas pedal that allows you to drive your FERRARI BRAIN.


As you can see emotional stress is in fact physical. It physically damages the victims brain. But take a look at the Post QEEG Brain Map on the right and see how rapidly and powerfully Brenda’s brain balanced after just short session of Brain Training Work. Let me explain HOW …

I had Brenda come in for a Brain Mapping this past Tuesday. It’s been several months since I did intensive Brain work with her. Over the past few months Brenda’s been going through a difficult legal battle with her ex-husband, “a monster from hell it seems”, who does everything he can to control and trigger her – from sending nasty messages, to messing with the process and on and on and on. For Brenda, this has caused her brain function to get more imbalanced, be more in a state of hyper-activation and excito-toxicity, leading to major memory, hearing, and focus issues, and dulling her creativity, senses and enjoyment with life. Just as I’m doing with Brenda, you need to protect yourself and re-wire your brain’s response from emotional stress too. See the increase in Red Hyperactivity in Beta and High Beta on the right QEEG Brain Map performed this Monday compared to the 2016 – particularly in the temporal lobes and auditory cortex where stress hits the hardest. 



2017 BRENDA'S BRAIN - After More Stress

2017 BRENDA’S BRAIN – After More Stress


In relationships we become used to particular ways of feeling, being and responding – we become tolerant of and familiar with stress. The brain is designed to make things FAMILIAR. Stress quickly becomes a habit the more people around you NEGATIVELY train your brain! This begs the question, what relationships are draining you and eating away at your brain that you need to let go of? 

As you read this article, and learn about the effects of stress on your brain, ask yourself, what do I want to get out of this article? What information do I need for myself? And then how can I use this to create healthier relationships? When you learn with your purpose in mind, your brain will focus on finding the information you need – and your memory will work a lot better too! So no need to worry and ADD TO YOUR STRESS!!!

Whatever its to empower yourself in business relationships or stand in your power in a personal relationship, remember to use your brain and think on purpose and don’t let your response and how you think and feel be at the mercy of others. TAKE ACTION. Build up your brain in advance and inoculate yourself to stress. Strengthen your control over your brain. Here’s why:

Once our brain has experienced traumatic physical abuse it creates major defence mechanisms and unconscious blockages to protect us from accessing those experiences again. The memories are so emotionally potent that our brain immediate disassociates and blocks us from accessing it. The pain is too overwhelming and so our brain “turns it off”, with good reason (psychologists listen up!)

However, emotional and social stress, rather than being a “CANON BALL” like physical abuse, is like boiling a frog in hot water, slowly and progressively boiling the water hotter and hotter over-time. In fact, this over-heating increases the baseline sensitivity and activation of the alarm centres in the amygdala and auditory cortex, progressively causing smaller and smaller things to trigger emotional stress in you. More and more you begin to constantly “hear the abuser’s voice louder in your mind”, and “see their harmful actions clearer and clearer, and closer and closer” … which fries your nerves and leaves them chronically in a state of “HYPER-ACTIVATION”. In essence, the stress chemicals accumulate, and the brain never shuts off or calms down, as seen by major deficiencies in the slow-wave frequencies like Delta, Theta, and Alpha, on Brenda’s brain. Over-time this destroys sleep, memory, relaxation, spatial abilities, focus and sensory acuity, and drains the brain because the brain needs to drop down into these slower frequencies to regenerate proteins and neurotransmitters. Moreover, in order to get deep sleep and regeneration, which facilitates growth hormone release, anti-aging, fat burning, and autophagy we need slow delta brainwave sleep. For efficient memory consolidation, and organization of neuro-cortical pathways, our brain needs to drop down into “theta dominant states” between 4-8Hz.

Information encoding and memory consolidation occur at different frequencies, in different networks in the brain and when the brain is operating at different speeds.


The brain needs sufficient excitatory neuro-chemical firing, specifically glutamate to stimulate long-term potentiation and new learning. Too slow, low voltage, Blue Brain (seen on QEEG) frequently is diagnosed as ADD. When processing information, the brain adds tons of information “to the cloud computer of our brain” and then later on will slow down into slower wave states in which, the bits of information in your brains cloud computing system, are systematized and organized into memory, which occurs in states of Alpha and Theta. The emotional and memory centres are designed to resonate between 6-9HZ when functioning optimally.

In a state of hyper activation, Beta and High Beta, the state in which Brenda’s brain is living, she’s constantly “ON” high speed receiving information, but her brain isn’t going into the right states where that information can be coherently organized into memory. Thus things mentally for her seem cloudy and new information, new people, new faces, and conversations don’t seem to stick. 

Brenda, remarked to me that her creativity has been “dulled” and she’s been having issues finding her passion, her drive and her direction for herself personally and with her business. Specifically, Alpha brainwave levels correspond to how synchronized and balanced mechanically and energetically our brain is. When our brain is producing ample ALPHA, we feel, “in the zone”, “on our game”, “in the flow”, “energized and on point” since in Alpha synchronizes our CONSCIOUS and UNCONSCIOUS MIND. I train people’s brain to be “in the zone”, relaxed and focused across all areas of their life. All the neuro-chemicals, and “nootropics”, like Dopamine exist in your brain, you just have to learn how to consciously “TAP” the compound pharmacy and mix your own cocktails in your brain – SEE DOPAMINE BOOSTERS BELOW.

When your brain’s ALPHA brainwave output is high, your conscious and unconscious fully align, and this is when you feel, “balanced”and all parts of your brain feel like they’re moving in the same direction. With deficiencies in Alpha, often it will seem like there are ropes pulling you in different directions and one part of your brain will be battling with another, leading to “stuckness”, “frustration”, “feeling disconnected”, “off purpose” and your brain running in all kinds of loops. Sound familiar? 

As seen on hundreds of Brain Maps, Brenda’s an example, emotional stress, de-synchronizes the brain, decreasing your memory, creativity, ability to visualize, and feel connected and associated with what you are doing (all of which require lots of ALPHA brainwave activity). Stress can also cause your brain to dissociate you from your experience, and so you’ll be going through the motions, but “not be present” and start to forget things, like “what you were doing did 10 minutes ago”, or “why you’re in a certain room of your house”as Brenda has remarked. Another consequence is you’ll feel un-motivated and lose your sense of pleasure and enjoyment of activities since you’re not “IN THEM”, experiencing them directly. Stress cuts you off from your nervous system. This response is appropriate in particular areas, such as dissociating us from harmful memories of abuse or trauma to protect us, but the brain has a tendency to generalize this protection mechanism, and so the more stress you face the more you become dissociated from all aspects of your life. The result is motivation, memory and enjoyment of life all suffer.


Your brain has BASELINE level of INHIBITION, to prevent sensory and information overload. Geniuses and highly creative individuals naturally have a very low level of inhibition, and in fact, many geniuses have, like Tesla had, such a low level of inhibition that the overload of sensory input can drive you crazy. However, unlike Tesla, most people have overly inhibited brains as a result of excessive stress, work demands and information overload with technology, social media etc. Stress inhibits the brain, which for a highly spiritual, intuitive person like Brenda, has cut her off from her full creative, intuitive abilities. Thus dis-inhibiting her brain is key to heightening her spiritual and intuitive abilities, creativity and ability to “Tune In”. As emotional stress amplifies over the course of an abusive relationship, the brain raises its set-point level of inhibition, as a protection mechanism. In Brenda’s case, her brain turned up the inhibition to the point where her brain turned her hearing off, and she recalls telling her ex during their relationship that she, “couldn’t hear him anymore externally …” which is true. Her brain has blocked off the auditory sensory input, which you may have experienced where the abuser is a yeller, screamer, and authoritarian. Unfortunately the abuser may take this “inability to hear” to abuse the victim even more. For the lawyers, the evidence is in the Brain Map, look at the excitatory activity in the temporal lobes of Brenda’s brain in High Beta.


Stress decreases the sensitivity of your senses and your precision over them. This can specifically decrease our kinaesthetic feeling and connection with our body, “dulling” the feeling and inhibit orgasms during sex.

Stress shuts off the brain in particular ways and in others turns it on so loud its screaming!


Holy Stress Response

Holy Stress Response

As you can see by the major spike in Brainwave Amplitude across the auditory cortex and frontal lobes, at 34 seconds, this huge stress response in the brain was generated by “just the single thought of her Ex”, igniting an ENTIRE TSUNAMI of Cortisol, Adrenaline and Stress Chemicals in the brainOver time, with your brain bathed with cortisol, the chronic elevation causes hormones to flatline, quickly bringing adrenal fatigue, lethargy, tiredness and thyroid issues. The problem is the WAVE Stress Response doesn’t stop, as we see with Brenda. This swiftly “fries” and destroys brain cell membranes. This is evidenced by the “wiring” and “connectivity issues” in Brenda’s brain represented by the blue lines, which identify “hypo-coherence”, or poor connection. This means that the brain regions are active and talking but are not in sync and firing in unison. The wiring issues are between critical networks which connect Prefrontal Cortex executive centres which control executive function, language, decision-making, and auditory cortex regions which play a role in speech and language reception and memory. As a result, Brenda has experienced, language issues, clearly expressing herself and getting the words clearly out of her brain. Not to mention to poor wiring issues between, occipital lobes which modulate visual input, with frontal lobe regions which impact our cognition, resulting in a poor ability to visualize, imagine and see clearly plans and ideas for the future. Thus if you’re a COACH, working with a client like Brenda can be frustrating, when you don’t know that her brain regions aren’t firing properly to perform the tasks at hand. THE RESULT: There will be major difficulties with motivation and goal-setting, since a brain that is stressed, and “inhibited” will be unlikely to venture into an unknown future that can’t be seen clearly.

THE GOLDEN ROOM DARKENED – Emotions are intimately intertwined with memory. In fact, emotions are the fabric of memory. Our limbic system, our mid-brain processes both emotions and memory. Over time, constant emotional stress leads to chronic elevation of cortisol, which leads to damaging excess excitatory activation of temporal lobes and specifically, the memory centre, the hippocampus. This leads to a phenomenon where clients will hear, “Screaming Internal voices in their head”. 

Foggy Brain – Stress also leads to a rapid depletion in neurotransmitters such as Acetyl-Choline and Dopamine, which is evidenced by the poor connectivity and coherence in the brain, and significant phase lag (brain lag – meaning very slow neural signalling speed just like a computer that lags).

The Stress Dis-Connect - Stress damages the “White Matter” and myelin sheaths which conduct nerve signals and insult nerves. As a result, signalling issues in the nervous system develop, such as poor balance, poor sensorimotor function, degeneration of hearing, extreme sensitivity to environmental stressors and energies, and very poor procedural memory. 

Fat, Tired, Weak – Emotional stress leads to chronically elevated inflammatory cytokines and chemicals produced by the liver, which shut down the thyroid (convert T3 into reverse T3), and thus lead to weight issues, brain fog, energy issues, poor focus, memory and cognition. 


You’ve seen and heard the BAD SIDE of Stress, well here’s the GOOD OF THE SIDE!!!

Your brain is a remarkably plastic, constantly changing dynamic organ! The science of neuroplasticity shows how powerfully and quickly the Brain responds and re-wires in response to Brain Training.

Specifically for Brenda, I am SOOO excited because I’ve never seen a brain that shifts and responds so powerfully to “How she is Thinking”With a little Neurolinguistic Programming, some Trance work, and Neuroplasticity Exercises, I’ll train her to develop conscious control over her brain and unconscious processes in no time. This is evidenced by the major Brain Voltage and Power changes in her Brainwaves by having her shift what she was thinking. For example, Brenda called in her Spirit guides, and thought of powerful, joyful energy and her brain immediately responded - now my job is to teach her how to consciously control her brainwaves across all states of consciousnessand start to teach her how to take precise control over her, auditory, visual and kinaesthetic thinking in her brain. This is where the Neurolinguistic Programming and Neuroplasticity work comes in and what I love doing the most!  

Before I give you the STRESS BUSTING plan to follow, here is: 


Stress not only has a mental and emotional component it also has a significant neurobiological component. Stress depletes vital neurochemicals, and neuro-hormones like Dopamine.

So after seeing Brenda’s Brain Map, and figuring out the underlying neurochemical imbalances I designed and gave her a cocktail of Brain Nutrients and Nootropics to balance her neurochemistry – The result was her Brain completely balanced across the entire frequency spectrum within minutes.



Stress increases glutamate release, the primary excitatory neurotransmitter, and progressively results in glutamate receptor hyper-sensitivity. This can result in tinnitus and ringing in the ears, chronically elevated “brain pain”, headaches, migraines, physical pain increased sensitivity to foods, excito-toxins like additives, colourings in food (eating out can be dangerous!), and increased sensitivity to weather changes, EMF and changes in the environment. You become a sensitive canary! Not to mention internal dialogue becomes so revved up, “its like your mind is screaming at you …” and internal dialogue may be very unsettling. GABA, the brain’s primary inhibitory neurotransmitter is Glutamates’ antagonist. GABA inhibits neurons. In the brain faster is not better, like most speed, ritain and amphetamine junkies would like to believe. In the Brain BALANCE EQUALS BRILLIANCE. Your brain runs to fast, and speed doesn’t come out properly, information doesn’t stick. We need to proper space in between nerve cell firing, just like we need the proper space and breathing in between speech (autism alert!). This is achieved by balancing glutamate and GABA levels.Stress fries the brain and rapidly depletes acetylcholine. The result is you can quickly become a worry wort and worry about everything! And boy do I see that in my practice! People who run scenarios in the mind all day worrying about dying, germs, facing their boss, you name it! 

ACETYL-CHOLINE – Your Brain Foggy & Slow? Feel like there’s a blanket on your brain?

Acetylcholine controls how fast neurons fire and thus brain speed, memory, motor function, boosts CREATIVE IQ, decreases worrying (those WORRY WARTS who are too busy worrying, they don’t live at!!!).

In the Parietal lobes, acetylcholine is released increasing alpha waves bringing us “in the zone” into relaxed focused states enhancing, information processing, analytical thinking, spatial reasoning, logical and mathematical thinking. Genius’ like Einstein had hyper-development in the Parietal lobes fuelling creative thinking, reasoning, intuitive abilities and imagination, all associated with high acetylcholine levels.

Acetyl Choline is also a building block for myelin, the fatty sheaths that insulate the nervous system and conduct electrical signals. More Myelin equals more insulation, greater capacity to hold and carry electric charge, and thus better communication in the brain and clearer thinking. When acetylcholine is depleted, “sparks begin to fly”, like an exposed T.V. wire, resulting in signalling issues, such as brain fog, motor issues and your mind going blank mid-conversation.

Lecithin and choline also help to metabolism fat, and are used in the treatment of Alzheimer’s disease, high cholesterol levels and liver disorders. Since we can see with Brenda’s QEEG brain map and EEG recordings, stress does to hyper-activate the auditory cortex and hippocampus, deteriorating it, thus increasing risk of alzheimer’s.

Thus Brainpower Nutrition, Pasture Raised or Organic Egg Yolks, Wild Fish and Seafood, Grass-Fed Beef Liver, and green vegetables like Broccoli are critical because they are loaded with acetylcholine.



DOPAMINE – Get your Neurons Firing & Wiring Together

Finally, DOPAMINE. Dopamine is the perhaps the brain’s most important neurochemical. Dopamine enhances Brainpower, Mood, Motivation, Focus, “Pleasure and Reward”, Brain Voltage, Brain Speed and Cognitive Energy. It is the brain’s “gas pedal” neurotransmitter. When dopamine levels are high groups of neurons fire together at high speed – the brain clicks. When dopamine is released, neurons “fire and wire” together. Thus dopamine is critical to learning and forming new, strong neuro-cortical connections. Which for Brenda is mighty important.

When dopamine rises, your brain says “Save that One”. Dopamine increases pattern recognition and key to planning, forethought, focus, executive function, attention. Dopamine is responsible for your Mental Bandwidth – your Brain’s RAM and Working Memory Power.

So how to re-build, re-wire and replenish your brain with all these vital neurochemicals? 



by The Game Changer 

  1. Movement – especially High Intensity Exercise (which someone who’s body is stressed should only be doing in short, intense bursts like 10 minutes of exercise in total until hormones are fixed), and fine motor movements like TAI CHI, QIGONG & Martial Arts
  2. Meditation - results in increased regeneration of frontal lobes, by increasing Alpha and Theta brainwaves, during which neurochemicals and catecholamine levels replenish
  3. SUNLIGHT – amino acid tyrosine, the precursor of Dopamine, is a light-activated molecule. Nothing raises dopamine and makes us feel better, “happier” and more joyful than the sunshine! Brenda was just in Hawaii! In any settlement packages, there definitely should be VACATION money to allow the victimized individual plenty of time to go to a tropical location for some healing and dopamine replenishment! You lawyers listen up!
  4. BRAINPOWER NUTRITION – Balanced Superfood Integrated Way of Eating combining:
  • Ample DHA & Iodine rich SEAFOOD, which is loaded with brain-specific nutrients such as zinc, iron, selenium, B12
  • TONIC HERBS & SUPERFOODS – Goji, Schizandra, Ginseng, Cordyceps and tonic herbs which modulate and adapt the immune system (speed or slow it up as needed! You don’t need to think about it, just consume them and the foods which are medicines will do the work!) Tonic herbs and superfoods are best consumed in BRAIN BEVERAGES which combine fats (to increase delivery and assimilation of brain nutrients across cell membranes), and superfoods (the medicinal foods) for a delicious, nutritious, satiating meal. WATCH THIS & MAKE THE LOVIN’ LIBIDO MOCHA!
  • GO GREEN – Ample Raw Vegetables & Juices – Anti-inflammatory high photonic power from the sun. Drink Sunshine. WATCH & MAKE ONE OF MY FAVOURITE ANTI-INFLAMMATORY JUICES HERE.

5. BRAIN TRAINING – Neurofeedback. Neurolinguistic Programming - optimizing the software programs of the mind. By expanding your mind’s capabilities with Neurolinguistic Programming you build new neuro-cortical pathways and stimulate neurogenesis.

*** All of these dopamine boosting strategies counteract the accelerated brain cell death and depletion in BDNF (brain derived nerve growth factor) caused by stress by increasing neurogenesis (brain cell growth).

*** ALZHEIMER’S ALERT One of the main reasons why emotional stress can contribute to Alzheimer’s and neurodegeneration is that it speeds the rate of brain cell death and slows the rate of brain cell growth, specifically in the memory hub, the hippocampus where neurogenesis occurs.

So for Brenda I gave her a cocktail that included Magnesium Threonate (a form of magnesium that acts on the cerebral spinal fluid) which enhances GABA production, Acetyl-Choline Boosters, including phosphatidylserine and CDP choline, as well as a few other nootropics, which within minutes completely balanced her BRAIN, raising DELTA, THETA and ALPHA brainwave production, while reducing the excitatory BETA and HIGH BETA activity.

For permanent change, I will be doing intensive Brain Training with Brenda, combining Neurotechnologies, Neurolinguistic Programming & Trance Work (to wire in the changes in both her conscious and unconscious and give her precise control over her brain & unconscious processes across different brain states), Brainpower Nutrition (to provide the raw materials to build up the brain & boost neurogenesis), and QIGONG & Tai Chi (to boost her Qi, hormones and stimulate neurogenesis). Stay tuned for the results of this full-out Neuroplasticity Brain Optimization Program.

I have only just begun to share with you the wide ranging effects of emotional stress on the brain, and while this article is rich brain-buzzing science and information there is so much more to learn and experience.

Now most get overwhelmed with science and information but thats only because they’ve forgotten to keep their purpose in mind. While reading and perhaps re-reading this article, ask yourself, What do I want to get out of this article? What information do I need for myself? 

See when you learn with your purpose in mind, your brain will focus on finding the information you need.

Whatever you’re purpose, remember to use your brain on purpose and never to let the actions of others eat away at your brain. TAKE ACTION. Build up and strengthen your brain. Inoculate yourself to stress. Strengthen your control over your brain. Train your brain to move towards the things you want, not away from those you fear.

Remember, its you’re brain, and how you build it, and how you use it is up to you! Make it the best brain and the best life you can!

PROTECT & OPTIMIZE YOUR BRAIN NOW with The Game Changer Proprietary Neuroplasticity Process email: chriswyllie@gamechanger.expert or call 647 688 2216


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“After spending 20 years in a highly toxic relationship, I came to Chris for17634355_10158562317770074_5318275926493972667_n help to bring myself back to a normal state of health. For years I tried everything to improve how I looked, felt and functioned, but to no avail. Even though I ate a healthy diet and exercised, I was exhausted all the time and suffered from asthma, food sensativies and brain fog. The problem was not what I was doing for myself but how I was being treated. Thanks to the work Chris and I have been doing together, I feel like I have come out of a coma and back into the world. The asthma is gone as well as most of the food sensativies and I feel energetic, vibrant and centred and with a strong sense of self worth that will never allow me to go back into another relationship like that one. After a particularly trying week (three months actually) with my ex, I felt myself slipping back into a scattered and tired state of being. Chris mapped what was going on and worked on my biochemistry: I feel like I have bounced back to better than ever. I feel this is because of the cellular memory of healthy higher states of functioning we have already worked to create within me. I don’t know where I would be right now without this technology. Much heart felt gratitude Chris!”


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